As men, we have a longing to become the best versions of our self.

We realize that to live whatever a successful life means to us, we have to be confident in the actions we’re taking.

One of the best ways to become the best versions of our self is to continue to grow as a person.

There has been several times in my life that growth has helped me become a better man.

I was 170 pounds overweight for 12 years; I worked a job I hated, and lived in a place I dreamed of leaving.

Before I could work on these changes, I had to grow in my mind. I had to see what’s possible and believe in myself.

I lost the weight and quit the job I hated to write and speak full-time.

We moved our family to our dream destination of Maui, Hawaii 20 months ago.

It took four years of continuous growth in every area of my life, but I’m now living my dream life.

I’ve grown and continue to grow and strive to be a good man for my family.

These seven ways helped me make significant life changes.

1. Choose love instead of your feelings.

Relationships help or hurt a man’s life. Love can be amazing if you choose it with someone you know is right for you.

Feelings will come and go. There will be times you won’t feel that love for you partner.

Realize that love is a decision and choose to love despite your feelings if you are with the person you know you want to truly be with.

Deciding to love despite how you feel helps you grow and will help your relationships last. 

2. Say NO to toxic relationships.

 It doesn’t have to be romantic relationships; any toxic relationship has the power to hold you back in life and keep you from taking action.

Purge negative relationships from your life to heal and grow. Surround yourself with people who will lift you up.

3. Feed your mind with educational and inspirational content.

 One of the best ways to grow and become the best version of yourself is to learn more. Today, we have access to knowledge in an unprecedented way.

You can listen and learn from podcasts, YouTube videos, books, or blogs. There’s a wealth of information that can teach you how to grow and inspire you to take action. 

4. Become a student of life.

 One of the fun things about life is that there’s always more to see and explore.

You can use the mediums I mentioned on the point above to become a student of all that life has to offer. When you understand life better, you grow as a man. 

5. Create habits that are healthy.

 Your health has an effect on every other area of your life. One of the best ways you can grow is by making healthy choices and forming good habits.

It can be reading, good food choices, exercise, and so much more. Forming habits is the best way to make a lasting impact in your life.

6. Never give into complacency.

Life is too short to settle for good enough—you can and should have a great life.

You should be grateful for all the good things you have in your life, but gratefulness isn’t the same as complacency.

You can be grateful while still striving for new levels of success. Complacency is the enemy of growth.

7. Get used to stepping outside of your comfort zone.

 There’s a lot in life that makes us as men, uncomfortable.

If we only do things that make us comfortable, we’ll miss a huge opportunity to do the things that stretch us and help us grow.

Step outside of your comfort zone and embrace the unknown—that’s where the magic happens. 

Never feel like you’ve arrived in life. Never given into complacency.

When you commit to a life of learning and growth, you can become the best version of yourself.

You can become whatever being a good man means to you. Life is too short to live it existing.

You can live a life you love when you believe and take action.

It will be a hard journey that’s filled with challenges and failure, but what’s waiting for you is worth the struggle.

It starts with getting honest with yourself about what you want from your life.

How are you growing as a man?

Originally Published on The Good Men Project
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