Welcome to Confident Lovers Resources Section:

This is a curated list for optimizing your relationship and sexuality. I have read and tested every recommendation on this page. Before digging into the awesome resources I know and trust, please read this important disclosure.

Books I Enjoyed Reading

For Men

Fantastic novel about suffering, rejection, peace, and wisdom.

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This is A MUST READ for every man. David Deida boldly lays out the spiritual character of both the sacred masculine and feminine. He discusses the vital importance of polarity in a relationship in great length. This book is more than a relationship guide, it’s full of wisdom for higher ideals, individually and in intimate bonds.

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This is a great read if you have been circumcised or are thinking of circumcising your son. It explores the genital anatomy, concepts of health, sexual morality, the rise of the medical profession, and the nature of disease.

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Most men don’t know they have the potential to be multi-orgasmic and that there is a difference between male orgasm and ejaculation. The information is written in a way that the spiritual seeker and scientific mind can both appreciate.

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For men who want to learn the essence of Tantra without all the attached Eastern mysticism. The techniques and their benefits are broken down into simple, easy to understand steps.

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Don't judge a book by it's cover, you will never look at sex the same way after you read this incredible book.

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Explore the elements of a man’s life that often cause emptiness, frustration and unhappiness.

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A funny and intelligent historic description of man’s complicated bond with his closest friend.

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This is the best book on sexual archeology and answers so many important questions: Why are women louder than men during sex? What is the sexual state of nature for mankind? Why do human males have large testicles? The answers will surprise you.

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For Women

Sheri Winston is a pioneer, this book is a must read. She playfully integrates ancient wisdom, lost knowledge and modern sexuality in a sexy, fun, empowering guidebook that lights up every woman's secret path to pleasure.

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Ladies, if you want to discover the powerful mind-body connection between female genitals, and sexual expression then this is the book for you. You will uncover how your sexuality is linked to your creativity. Naomi explains the brain and vagina connection through her scientific research that is easy to understand.

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Learn the sexual practices that can preserve and restore a woman’s physical youthfulness and mental energy.

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This is an amazing book about human history and the present condition of human beings, which answered many questions that I have had all my life

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Regina Rocks! You’ll discover what no one taught you about the source of your feminine power and how to use it. Too many of us are unhappy with our bodies and disconnected from our truth. This book will reacquaint you to your own power source. I really enjoyed reading this book.

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Learn about the 5,000 year old Tantric practices. Margot Anand is one of the first teachers to introduce Tantra to the west.

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Very well written personal journey – she goes deep into what makes male and female bodies want each other.

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This fascinating book teaches the ancient wisdom that celebrates the beauty and power of sexual energy within all of us.

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Dr. Stubbs does a fascinating job describing why women and men participate in sexual work. The information in this book will open your mind to the sacredness and necessity of why this type of work is needed for service to humanity.

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Therapists I Work With & Trust:

Los Angeles, USA (Works With Women)

rahi-chun
If there is one person I can count on for healing, safety, professionalism, and in-depth knowledge, it’s Rahi. I’ve worked with him several times and have recommended other women who needed healing. He also has more training hours and certifications than one can count. He has extensive knowledge of the mind, body and spirit connection. Check out Rahi’s website here.

 

Tallin, Estonia (Works with Men & Women)

jaya
Jaya and I met in Bali at an ecstatic dance. We quickly became friends and spent the last 4 weeks of her trip  getting to know each other while sharing our sexual experiences and trainings. She’s also a certified Tantra teacher, read her full bio here.

Best Organic Lubrications For All Pleasure Areas

They say communication is the best Lubrication, but sometimes we need a little help.

Many lubricants are full of chemicals that we don’t want to put on our delicate pleasure areas. Below is a list of options for Natural, Vegan and Organic lubrications.

Healthy Lubrication -ConfidentLovers.com

 Coconu

Why I Like This: 

It’s Edible, oil based, multi purpose and has a nice soft smell.

Its long-lasting formula is designed to protect and moisturize dry or sensitive vaginal and anal tissues.

Works great as a massage oil and doesn’t contain any alcohol, petroleum, parabens, gluten, fragrances or dyes.

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 Organic Glide

Why I Like This:

 

Love the packaging. Glides nicely, doesn’t get gooey or sticky.

For Him and Her Like Liquid Silk, Long-lasting Natural Lubricant with Soothing Glide Effect.

derived from ancient Greek and Egyptian knowledge regarding mother natures healing and moisturizing abilities.

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Yes Butt

Why I Like This:

I am in Love with this company’s philosophy.

This lube has a lot of key features:

Compatible with natural rubber, latex and polyisoprene condoms, Odourless, no taste, no stickiness, unlike silicone no need to wash off afterwards and pH matched for anal use.

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Intimate Earth
Anal Lube

Why I Like This: 

This glide warms naturally with “Cinnamomum Zeylanicum” Bark extract, unlike other warming glides that can contain menthol, which is an irritant.

Melt’s unique formula warms the skin on contact through natural derived glycerine and the cinnamomum extract.

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