In the 1970’s the term Deep Throat had a few meanings in America. One meaning was associated with the Watergate Scandal and the other was the Erotic term that became very popular after the success of the X-rated movie “Deep Throat” released in 1972.
For some men deep throating is the Lamborghini of oral sex.
As one man described it – “ Deep throating is like an inspirational gift on your birthday, and very enjoyable when the women is confident and enjoys doing it. It’s truly a blessing to receive.“
While other men can’t understand or relate to the fascination.
Before we dive into all the fascinating details of this phenomena lets first define the difference between deep throating and fellatio (Blow Job).
Fellatio:
The word fellatio comes from the word phallic – term for a penis shaped object.
Fellatio means – oral sex act involving the use of the mouth, which is performed by a person on the penis of another person.
The term ‘blowjob’ is an old English slang term that refers to a sexual favor/act – (a “job”) performed by a prostitute on a man.
Deep-throating:
Is a form of fellatio, when all of an erect penis is placed inside a man or woman’s mouth. The penis will enter the throat.
For Years I’ve been asking men, what is the fascination with deep throating when the most sensitive part of the penis (The frenulum or Trigger Point) is located right where the head and shaft meet?
Common Answers:
- “The sight of a woman able to deep throat is so erotic and sexy. It’s such an amazing turn on and a very rare experience.”
- “It’s a power thing and I love the visual. I love feeling in control like that.”
- “It’s overrated. I don’t connect with the dominance/submission dynamic. I love it when a woman gets turned on by giving me pleasure. She doesn’t have to do anything as crazy as deep throating.”
- “Another friend explained it best when he used a number system to describe the feeling. “If the trigger point is a 10, then the rest is an 8.”
In Tantra the throat chakra (the 5th chakra) is said to be the chakra of creative expression.
Some women can reach orgasm while performing fellatio because of the physiological connection between the throat and the vagina.
According to Whipple/Komisaruk – The chest and the throat are directly connected to the cervix. Some women can feel the direct connection between mouth/throat and genitals.
While gagging can be triggered by physical stimulation of the soft palate, it also has an emotional component, aroused by sensations that evoke fear, stress, anxiety, and other intense feelings.
We have the ability to learn how to relax the gag reflex. (This is what sword swallowers and opera singers do.)
For women aspiring to become sword swallowers, opera singers, and deep-throaters, here are a few tips for suck-cess:
- Relax your mouth. A tight tense mouth will not only lose sensitivity, but tension goes against flow.
- Practice with a dildo to see how open you can stay without gagging. (Don’t use a banana, which can break off in your throat.)
- “Untrain” your gag reflex by finding the spot on your tongue where you start to gag. Let the urge pass and continue. This will be unpleasant at first, but practice makes better – progressing little by little farther back on your tongue.
- A slippery penis is a happy penis – stay lubricated.
- Find the comfortable physical position that accommodates the shape/curvature of his penis.
- It’s important that you trust your partner. Communicate your boundaries, and make sure you both know your limits. Don’t do anything you are not comfortable with.
- Deep throating has the potential to do serious damage if taken too far. Respect her boundaries and know her limits. Consult a medical practitioner at the first sign of damage.
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