I had no idea vaginal surgery even existed.

When I was 19 years old, I was on a flight from Las Vegas to Los Angeles, sitting next to a woman who was reading a document titled Laser Vaginal Rejuvenation.

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I had to interrupt her reading and ask, “What does Laser Vaginal Rejuvenation mean?”

I know what a laser is

I know what a vagina is

I know what the term rejuvenation means

But what can it possibly mean in this context?

She explained that it’s a surgery using cutting edge technology in this case a ‘laser’ that tightens the vaginal muscles.

I had a dumbfounded look on my face, because at that time I had no idea vaginas had muscles, nor did I fully understand the concept of this procedure.

After she explained it to me, I immediately wondered if I needed this procedure, more importantly what medical criteria would be used to determine the need for this procedure or was it mostly self-imposed?

She went on to explain that this procedure is generally done for women who experience urinary incontinence and women who have lost the tightness in their vagina after giving birth.

We talked the entire flight and she told me she was looking for an assistant. I was in between jobs, and this sounded exciting – a week later I started working for her and learning all the procedures available to women at that time.

Another procedure was called Labiaplasty – this is where the inner or outer lips or both are reconstructed for cosmetic, medical or hygienic purposes.


Quick Note:

A vulva is everything you see on the outside, like a human face it has all the same features and functions, but no two are alike.

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A vagina is the internal part where the G-spot and A-spot are located. The vaginal canal starts at the entrance ends at the cervix and gives birth to humanity.


Each time I was in the room with the Doctor seeing the patient who had undergone this surgery I got goose bumps.

I can’t imagine the uncomfortableness or the pain associated with any surgical procedure, and to have it in your genital area scared me.

There are so many pleasure receptors in that area and surgeries don’t always go as planned, as there is always the potential risk of infections, scarring, pain, and other complications.

While there are many valid reasons to get any kind of surgery, it’s also good to learn about the anatomy of the area before undergoing any surgery.

For example:

The inner lips don’t contain hair follicles and are comprised of sweat glands, sebaceous scent glands, blood vessels, and nerves.

The inner lips open up like a flower during arousal and don’t have the fatty tissue of the outer lips, which allows them to function as erectile tissue during arousal and sex.

I am thankful for the experience of working there at such a young age. I learned so much about the female genitals and my own body.

After seeing hundreds of “before and after” vulvas, one question kept popping up.

If it’s only for cosmetic reasons why are so many women having this surgery?

I can’t speak for everyone, but most of the time it’s because of how we see our own body.

For years I was self – conscious about the way my vulva looked, because my only reference guide at the time was the gorgeous airbrushed vulva’s in Playboy.

One day I woke up and had an epiphany.

No man has ever complained about the way my vulva looks – why am I so worried about it?

If beauty is in the eyes of the beholder then so are flaws.

Every vulva and vagina is unique. There are medical reasons why such procedures are necessary, and many women have had life changing results. I am not saying you shouldn’t consider the option if it’s available.

Every surgeon I have met will say – “not all surgeries are cosmetic.” These surgeries are used to treat medical conditions, including incontinence and sexual dysfunction.

Some women who undergo these type of surgeries say they are enjoying greater freedom to modify their bodies than ever before.

It’s our responsibility to make the best choices for our body.