A penis massage allows a man to experience a different kind of pleasure, because the purpose of the massage isn’t to get him to ejaculate as quickly as possible.

A penis is also called a lingam in ancient Sanskrit, which translates to “Shaft of Light” or “Wand of Light.”

What Is A Sensual Penis Massage?

A sensual penis massage includes massaging of the male genitals using a variety of grips and strokes:

  • Caressing
  • Stroking
  • Tickling
  • Squeezing
  • Tapping
  • Soft & Firm

With the givers guidance to breathe deeply, he’ll be able to circulate his sexual energy all throughout his body. For many men this is a whole new feeling as most men only feel arousal energy in their genitals.

It’s very common for a man to become highly aroused during this type of massage and experience sensations in his body he’s never felt before.

The challenge many men have during this type of massage is letting go and focusing only on receiving.

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To fully experience all the different sensations, feelings and emotions, requires a lot of trust.

Before a man can give up control to actively experience the flowing energy of his body, he needs to feel safe and trust the person who is giving him the massage.

The first step of the process is to create a relaxing, and soothing space. Creating the right space is very important because it can make or break the experience.

The space allows him to relax, let go of control, and slip deeply into receiving pleasure.

Here are Three Key elements for creating a relaxing space:

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1) Setting Intention

It is essential that both people are fully relaxed and their intentions are aligned.

It’s important for both giver and receiver to understand that such a massage is not about getting to the finish line as quickly as possible.

Instead, it’s giving a man the opportunity to learn how to get out of his head, feel his body at a deeper level while feeling sensations he’s never felt before.

2) Space & Temperature

Creating a relaxed and nurturing space is very important because it allows both people to enter a space where all outside distractions are left behind.

Soft lighting and relaxing music will add to the ambience and the space.

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If the receiver is too cold or hot he won’t be able to fully relax. Setting the right temperature is a key component of creating a relaxing ambiance.

3) Patience

For many men this might be the first time he is being touched this way. He may be nervous  which may cause him not to have an erection or his erection may come and go.

This is because, for many men the sensual approach of a penis massage can be a new experience if he is use to the habitual strokes of hard and fast.

It requires the giver to be understanding and patient while his body is adjusting to new ways of touch.

He will have a different experience every time he receives this type of a massage.

It’s always best to start with a full body massage to relieve tense muscles and to get the energy flowing.


It’s important for the giver to know that the purpose of this massage is NOT to get a man to ejaculate as fast as possible by giving him a sacred hand job, instead it’s to expand his ability to receive pleasure and feel various types of sensations he’s never felt before.

He learns how to relax into pleasure by allowing himself to receive many different types of touch and sensations.

The giver learns how to touch a man sensually by incorporating a variety of grips and strokes.

Use lots of Oil

Using a lot of oil for this practice is essential because your hands need to glide smoothly, freely, without friction.

Start Slow

Start with a gentle feather touch in the beginning.  Allow your fingers and hands to slide on his penis without grabbing it.

Gradually you can start adding more pressure.

There are unlimited variations in the way our hands can be used. Get creative and most importantly let your intuition and his responses guide you.

Remember, a man does not need to have an erection to experience pleasure. Each stroke can have a very different feeling and sensation.

Whatever unfolds can be a powerful and beautiful experience for you and him.

This type of massage can be relaxing, stimulating, erotic, liberating and leaving the man with a great sense of emotional, mental, spiritual and physical well-being.

Have you experienced this type of massage? Share your experience below.

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