Let’s Start With Why ConfidentLovers?
“Sex lies in the root of life, and we can never learn to appreciate life until we know how to understand sex.” ~ Havelock Ellis
We Are All Born Great Lovers
In the advanced world of Artificial Intelligence, 3D printing, and Block chain technology, Sexuality still remains a taboo topic.
Throughout my travels to 60+ countries I’ve seen first hand the unhappiness that is caused by sexual shame, guilt and anxiety.
No one is born with the emotion of shame, guilt or anxiety. These are all learned behaviors.
How can we fully enjoy one of life’s greatest pleasures and truly embrace it as a healthy and enjoyable experience when openly talking about sex remains taboo.
We read about sex, we talk about sex, and some of us watch porn to learn how to have sex, but when we are naked with someone else, we forget how to relax and be ourselves.
In no other place can we be so free as when we are with our lover – naked, private, and intimate.
It’s also one place where many of us feel un-free, hung up, unfulfilled and filled with fear, shame, anxiety, and uncertainty.
We haven’t created an intimate relationship with our bodies to get acquainted on a deeper level and understand how our sexual anatomy really works.
What we are missing is knowledge, depth, affection, caring, friendship, intimacy, communication, playfulness, laughter and love.
Why Confident Lovers?
- Because sexual shame and sexual ignorance limits us from exploring our sexual potential.
- Because our sexual expressions change at different stages in our lives.
- Because it’s about integrating mind, body, and spirit.
- Because we were never taught how to recognize and respect personal boundaries.
- Because sex can be deep, unpredictable, experimental, playful, wild, awkward, uncertain, and full of mystery.
The more we experience and learn about sexuality the more we realize its unlimited potential. Increasing our sexual knowledge gives us the opportunity to explore sex in ways we didn’t realize was possible.
We replace performance, shame, guilt, lack of emotional awareness, and anxiety with beauty, pleasure, laughter, and freedom.
We gain sexual confidence and find new richness of intimacy, openness, and communication. We reach deeper levels of passion, and self-awareness.
Too many people are trapped in destructive, repetitive habits – doing things they don’t want to do, uncertain and afraid to change, try new things, and ask for what they want.
Men need to know more about women’s sexuality and women need to know more about men’s sexuality.
Only then can we have the confidence to enjoy one of life’s deepest and greatest pleasures.
ConfidentLovers is created for the evolved minds who no longer benefit from living in a world of taboos. Instead they crave depth, pleasure & connection.
“Do not believe anything because it is said by an authority, or if it’s said to come from angels, or from Gods, or from an inspired source.
Believe it only if you have explored it in your own heart and mind and body and found it to be true.” ~Buddha
Curiosity is my driving force. I have a mindset of lifetime improvement. I travel, read, explore, share, and practice what I learn.
Not only does my curiosity involve having unique experiences, I also have a burning desire to learn how our cultural, media, religion, environment and tech shape our sexual beliefs and behaviours.
I’ve traveled to over 60 countries, attended numerous workshops, engaged in over a thousand conversations with men, women, couples and anyone who is willing to share their most intimate sexual practices, experiences, pleasures, and frustrations.
I’ve had the pleasure of spending time in countries like India, Thailand and Bali learning Tantric and Taoist teachings.
I don’t have a PHD in sexuality, so I can’t conduct great research experiments like, Richard von Krafft-Ebing, Dr. Grafenberg and OMGYes.com.
But, what I specialize in is integrating Ancient sexual wisdom with science and figuring out how it applies to the human of today.
For more than 14 years, I have been exploring sexual health, sexual pleasure, and the art of lovemaking.
I’ve also worked for a Dr. who pioneered the G-spot amplification procedure and decided to be a guinea-pig for his research (we’ll get back to that).
I am not a guru. I have a burning desire to change and upgrade the way we learn and approach sexuality.
Until my early twenties I was only able to have clitoral orgasms through masturbation combined with visual stimulation but never through penetration.
I went as far as getting my G-spot injected, hoping this would explain my vaginal insensitivity and allow me the possibility to experience orgasm during sex, but it didn’t work for me, because I was forcing something to happen.
Sex always fell short of my desired and ultimate fulfillment and left me feeling disconnected — disconnected from my body, my partner and from the whole sexual experience.
To reach fulfillment I consumed a lot of chocolate and even that didn’t work.
It wasn’t until I met an older gentleman, who taught me how to slow down, relax, trust, surrender, and connect with myself and with each other.
This man made it safe for me to be vulnerable and taught me what it means to really surrender.
I wanted to explore my deepest desires with him and try things I’ve never tried with anyone else because I felt safe, respected, loved and adored.
At the time he knew more about my body than I did and for the first time I had an orgasm during sex. Very soon after I experienced multiple orgasms.
In a short time my frustrations, unfulfilling habits, self-limiting beliefs and assumptions had all changed.
I discovered that learning and educating people from all walks of life is the most valuable way to translate and transfer knowledge about sexuality, roadblocks, opportunities, and desires.
I am using my insights and experiences as my credentials to speak and share everything I have learned throughout the years and keep learning about sexuality.
My Purpose: End The Sexual Dark Ages
I am on a mission to bring sexuality out of the Dark Ages so our sexuality becomes the source of our happiness instead of the source of our shame, guilt, trauma, pain, and anxiety.
I want to create a world where there is NO SEXUAL SHAME. Our bodies are celebrated, honored and understood.
I impart my knowledge and experience to give you the necessary tools, guidance and resources to become confident lovers.
This is your opportunity to learn and explore new possibilities.